Why this skill step matters in education
Learning can be challenging. It is not always possible to get all things right first time. Things will go wrong. When taking in lots of information, which might be complicated and tricky to understand, we may begin to feel overwhelmed, frustrated, or anxious. These feelings can be quite normal when learning something new. We all might feel like giving up sometimes. If you feel sad, angry or scared, the natural response can be to take yourself out of the situation and do something else to avoid what is causing you stress. In some cases, for example if you are in danger, then that is the right response. At other times though, we need to think about how to be resilient - how to keep going despite feeling negative emotions. In education this is important if we are to continue learning and developing.
Why this skill step matters in the workplace
With busy work schedules, targets to be met, meetings to be had and the feeling of having lots to get done in never quite enough time, it is no surprise that in the workplace things can sometimes go wrong. Negative emotions can creep in. A person may even feel like the best thing to do is walkaway in order to avoid having to deal with whatever it is that has gone wrong. We need to work towards being more resilient to avoid just giving up. Speaking to a trusted colleague or line manager about any concerns we have in the workplace is advisable. They may be able to help you see how to overcome the setback. Negative emotions when something goes wrong in the workplace nearly always pass if we take positive action – just like they do in other places too.
Why this skill step matters in the wider world
None of us ever want something to go wrong. Unfortunately, in life, many things are out of our control. It is unavoidable that sometimes some things will go wrong. These might be small things – an unexpected shower of rain when you don’t have an umbrella or coat, or not being able to find something you need such as your keys or phone when you are in a rush. However, they might be much bigger things – the loss of a job, becoming ill, or the death of someone we know and love. When something goes wrong, it is usual to experience negative emotions such as sadness, frustration or disappointment. However, we need to avoid letting our emotional responses overwhelm us. We need to make sure we can always see and feel it is worth carrying on and that we do not give up.
How to practise this skill step
To best practise this step of Staying Positive, apply what you have learnt to a real-life situation. Choose one or more of the activities below, remind yourself of the key points and strategies in the step, and have a go!
- At the end of every day or week make a list of the top 3 things that have gone well for you.
- Reflect on anything that has not gone so well. Talk to a trusted friend or family member and begin to consider positive actions you can take to overcome what has gone wrong.
- When something goes wrong for you, try stepping back from the situation and imagine someone else is telling you about it. What would you say to them to help them? We are often kinder and more helpful to others than to ourselves. Be your own friend when something goes wrong.