Why this skill step matters in education
Whilst learning we can experience differing emotions. Some positive and some negative. If we are finding some new learning particularly challenging, or when we feel like we have lots to do and not enough time or resources to do it, we can become anxious or stressed. Negative feelings can affect the way we speak and listen to others, or work with them on any shared tasks. We should seek to stay calm when things feel like they are going wrong in our educational setting. Losing our ‘cool’ in a stressful learning environment could affect our learning in a negative way and should be avoided.
Why this skill step matters in the workplace
Whether in the office, retail space, factory, or off-site, we may experience something going wrong in our working day. This can be challenging as we are all only human and will experience an emotional response. It is possible to change strong negative emotions such as anger and frustration and to get back to a state of calm. Being calm is helpful because it gives space to think about the situation and come up with possible solutions. It is hard to make good plans, find creative solutions or develop new ideas if you are not feeling calm first.
Why this skill step matters in the wider world
Sometimes when things go wrong, we may find that we have very strong negative emotional response. When this happens, we need to be careful that we do not take an action which could end up making things no better and might even make them much worse. If we are worried or scared, we might retreat – run away and give up, when, had we carried on, we could have achieved something. Or we might feel angry and look to blame someone else. This may mean we respond aggressively and damage our relationship with them. It is therefore important to develop ways to remain calm in negative situations where ever we may be.
How to practise this skill step
To best practise this step of Staying Positive, apply what you have learnt to a real-life situation. Choose one or more of the activities below, remind yourself of the key points and strategies in the step, and have a go!
- Talk to a trusted friend or family member when it feels like something is going wrong. Often talking about the thing that is causing you to feel a negative emotion can help you to feel less concerned about it.
- Investigate yoga, meditation and breathing techniques to help you find a sense of calm – there are many classes, apps and resources online to refer to. As you become confident in these practices, you can use techniques in your day whenever you feel you may be losing your calm.
- Seek a hobby that helps you to unwind after a challenging day. It might be something energetic like playing a sport, going for a run, a swim, doing some yoga or gardening. Or it could be something less energetic like reading, painting, playing a musical instrument, baking or cooking. Having something to positively distract us, that we can enjoy and engage with, can help us stay calm.