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Receiving, retaining and processing information
Transmitting information or ideas
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Sharing reactions

I explain how an idea makes me feel when appropriate

Core ideas

A

What it means to share reactions to an idea  

Sharing your reactions to an idea means expressing how you feel or what you think about it. This can include whether you find the idea exciting, useful, or confusing, as well as any concerns or suggestions you might have. For example:

  • Excitement: "I really like this idea because it’s creative and could solve a big problem in a new way!"
  • Concern: "I’m not sure if this idea would work well because it might take too much time or resources."

Suggestion: "This idea is interesting - maybe we could make it even better by making it easier for people to use."

B

Why and when it can be helpful to explain how an idea makes you feel 

Sharing your feelings about an idea can help you and others understand things more clearly. It can lead to better discussions, stronger relationships, and improved decision-making.

  • It helps others understand your point of view: When you explain how you feel about an idea, people can see why it matters to you. This can help avoid misunderstandings.
  • It can lead to better conversations: People are more likely to listen if they understand your emotions, not just your opinions. It can encourage open and respectful discussions.
  • It helps you understand your own thoughts and feelings: Putting your emotions into words can make things clearer for you. It may help you see whether your reaction is based on facts, past experiences, or personal values.

Situations where it is helpful to explain how you feel about an idea include:

  • When discussing important decisions that affect you.
  • When you want to build understanding with others.
  • When you feel strongly about something and want to express your point of view.
  • When emotions are influencing your response, and sharing them can add meaning to the discussion.

However, there are also situations where slowing down might be helpful:

  • When emotions are too strong, and you need time to think before speaking.
  • When the conversation is focused on facts and emotions may not be relevant.
  • When the other person is not ready to listen or discuss feelings constructively.

For example, if someone suggests an idea that frustrates you, it might be better to take a moment before responding so you can express yourself calmly.

C

How to explain how an idea makes you feel  

The way you express your feelings about an idea can make a big difference. A thoughtful and respectful approach can lead to better conversations and more positive outcomes.

  • Be clear and honest: Say what you feel in a simple way (for example, “This idea makes me feel unsure because…”). Avoid exaggerating or hiding your true emotions.
  • Explain why you feel this way: Give a reason to help others understand (for example, “I feel uncertain because I don’t have enough information yet”).
  • Stay calm and respectful: Express your feelings without blaming or criticising others. Focus on your experience rather than making assumptions about others’ intentions.
  • Suggest a way forward if possible: If you have concerns, explain what might help (e.g., “I would feel more comfortable if we discussed possible risks”). If you feel positive, encourage further discussion (e.g., “I feel excited about this idea because… Maybe we could explore it more?”).

By explaining your emotions in a clear and respectful way, you can help create better discussions, build understanding, and find positive solutions.

Assessment

Reflective questions for individuals can include:

  • What does it mean to share your reactions to an idea? 
  • Why and when can it be helpful to explain how an idea makes you feel and when might it not be?
  • How can you explain how an idea makes you feel in a helpful way?
  • When have you shared your reactions to ideas in different ways and how did it go?

Observation cues for trainers can include:

  • Is the individual able to explain how they feel about an idea in a way that is helpful and constructive, even when they do not feel positively about it?
  • Is the individual able to manage their emotional reactions like this day-to-day?

Evidence can include individuals’ self-reflections or observations from others.

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